5 Ways Swinging Makes A Relationship More Fun

Swinging is not the thing that typically crosses the mind of most couples when they are thinking of fun things to do together. A threesome, maybe, but the idea of having a full partner swap with another couple is unthinkable to most. However, those that have taken the big leap and survived it, will tell you that their relationship has been a lot more fun since they started swinging. This may be hard for monogamous couples to believe, but most experienced swinger couples would agree with me that swinging did a few or all of these 5 things to their relationship.

1. You Get To Share Each Other’s Fantasies

Whether you are in a swinging relationship or not, it is natural and common for you to have fantasies about sexual experiences that may not include your partner. If you are in a monogamous relationship, it’s most likely that you have to suppress these feelings, as sharing them with your partner may get you in big trouble. Swingers do not have this problem. Once you are in an open relationship, all things are now out in the open and you and your partner can talk about these fantasies, and better yet, help each other in making them come through.

2. You’ll Enjoy An Improved Social Life

Once you become active in the swinging community, going to events and parties become a big part of your overall lifestyle. Whether it is to a private house party on a Saturday night, a local swingers club or group holiday experience, swingers are always looking for the next event to attend, where they can meet other swinger couples. Apart from the sex, one of the greatest things that couples get from these events is amazing friendships with like-minded people. People you get to be yourself around and you will most likely start spending the majority of your social time with.

3. Your Sex Life With Each Other Will Be Way Better

Sex is like your favourite sport. The more you do it, the more you want to do it and the better you are at it. Taking it even a step further, the more people you get to practise with, the more skilled you become. This then gets translated to your private bedroom where you get to show off your new skills and a renewed appetite for sex to your partner. If you get an opportunity to talk to a few swinger couples, most of them will tell you that they have had better and more frequent sex since being in the lifestyle.

4. Your Relationship Is No Longer Susceptible To Boredom

Most couples are afraid to admit the fact that it is possible that they end up growing bored with each other. This is especially true for couples that have been together for a long time, and now have children and other major responsibilities that you have to now dedicate significant time and attention to. By getting involved in the swinging lifestyle, you and your partner get to share something you can both be excited about and look forward to. The feeling you get from being swingers is very similar to that teenage love affair feeling. It’s naughty, it’s secretive, it’s taboo and that makes it even more enjoyable.

5. You Pay More Attention To Each Other

One of the biggest fears people have about getting involved in the swinging lifestyle is the fear of losing their partner, and the fear of feeling jealous. That is not exactly a bad thing for a relationship. This is the type of competition and challenge you can use as a reason to pay more attention to your partner and to never take each other for granted. Swinging challenges your relationship, forces you to communicate more often, and ultimately make you better at making the effort to give more time and attention to your partner.

10 Tips For A First Time Unicorn At A Swingers Club

The term unicorn in the swinging community is used to describe single females who are comfortable around swingers and open to exploring with couples. If you find yourself being one of these very rare and desired single females, here are some useful tips that will help you if you are planning on visiting a swingers club as a single unicorn for the first time.

1. Find a couple (MF, MM, FF whatever your fantasy is) to actually swing with first if you have not already experienced a threesome or moresomes.

2. If you already have a couple, you are comfortable with consider going to the club with them the first time.

3. If #2 is not an option find a guy friend you are comfortable with and ask him to go with you.  Most clubs don’t allow single men or charge them a premium, so he will probably jump at the chance to get in as a couple if he is into that.  Beware that a lot of guys are not nearly as open-minded about sex as they think they are.

4. Understand going in that single females are highly desirable in most of the swinger communities.  The younger and more attractive you are the more desirable you will be, but you don’t have to be the perfect model either.  Any female who make a reasonable effort at her appearance will likely get a lot of attention.

5. Bi-sexuality on the part of the women is usually expected, but not an absolute requirement. I suggest you don’t need to do anything you are not comfortable with.

6. If it is an on-premise club, there likely will be sexual activity possibly significant activity going on. Just be prepared to see anything, often women in this situation are not nearly as open-minded as they think they are.

7. Clubs can vary widely in the makeup of their patrons from a full house of beautiful people to a full house of people you really would rather not see with their clothes off.  Most clubs, however, have a mixture of all types. Try a few clubs until you find the one you are most comfortable with.

8. Understand some couples may not be into singles at all. If a couple is not interested, do not take it personally. Just be polite and move on. As a unicorn, you won’t have any problems finding a couple at the end of the night to play with.

9. In most cases, when you get together with a couple, you may be into one partner more than the other. Most times if you are more attracted to the female half of the couple more that the male, then it is OK, but if it is the other way around, the wife may get insecure, so be careful not to show obvious bias. Unless they tell you, it is ok. If it makes you uncomfortable, it’s best to not be there at all.

10. Stay away from any kind of drama. Don’t be the one to start it nor get involved with any sort of drama between partners. If you sight any insecurity between a couple early on, excuse yourself quickly before anything serious happens. Such incidents are a rare occurrence in the lifestyle community, but I would be lying if I said it did not occur.

Re-read #4, you are in the driver’s seat.  You will probably be able to get in the club for free.  You will probably have people offering to buy you drinks.  Know what you are and are not up to and don’t feel pressured to do anything you don’t want to.  In most cases, a firm sorry I am not interested will be respected. Most of all, don’t forget you are there to have fun.