Most Important Rules To Follow At Every Swingers’ Party

At the centre of the swinging community are the swingers’ parties. Whether it’s a private swingers club, a hotel take-over or a house party, swinger couples look forward to the weekends where they can attend one of these events, to meet new couples or get together with their regular lifestyle friends. Whether you are a newbie or an experienced couple in the swinging lifestyle, there are some critical unwritten rules you are expected to follow when you are a privileged guest at anyone of these events.

Though these are not written rules, not following them could lead to you not being welcomed or invited back to other events.

Here are the most important rules and etiquette you need to follow when at a swingers’ party.

1. Be Friendly and courteous

The number one way to “not get laid” in any situation, especially in the swinging lifestyle is to be a total anti-social asshole. You will find that you make friends with way more couples by simply smiling, saying hello and engaging in conversations. If someone offers you something you are not interested in, no need to be rude, a simple “No Thank You” will do.

2. No Means No

You will hear this over and over again. When a person or a couple say “No Thank You” they really mean it and it’s time for you to back off. Harassment will not be tolerated, and by disregarding this rule, you are asking for a one-way ticket out of every single lifestyle event. Be respectful of others and their preferences. Do not take personal offence. No simply means “NO”.

3. Ask First

It’s easy to fall into the trap of the misguided notion that it is a “Free For All” and you could just touch whatever you see without asking. It’s actually quite the opposite. 1) You might get punched in the face 2) It’s very rude and not accepted. Unless permission was given, if you see something you like, ask first before you touch. You can first start by paying a compliment, then asking nicely if you may touch or, have a dance with someone that does not belong to you. Whatever it is you want to do with another couple, start by asking first.

4. Respect The Boundaries Of Others

Everyone has the right to be where he or she is at in the swinging lifestyle. There is no minimum of maximum level of participation requirements. Every couple has their own preferences, and others should respect those choices. Do not force anyone to like the things that you like, as well as you should not judge others for what they are into. The most beautiful thing about the lifestyle community is it provides a safe place for those looking to exploring their fantasies and sexuality, without pressure or judgment. Allow others to actually enjoy that freedom.

5. No Drama

It’s not very often, but it’s quite normal for couples to have disagreements while at a party. This is mostly due to lack of communication. It’s ok. It happens. This, however, does not mean you get to ruin the night of everyone else by arguing or fighting where everyone else can see or hear you. Take your drama home, or to the car. If you can’t work out your drama, it’s best to stay home until you are ready to communicate properly and be a part of the lifestyle community.

6. Dress to get laid

When we talk about dressing, it’s not just about what you are wearing. It’s everything from attire to the way you groom yourself. If you are going to venture into the swinging lifestyle, consider that you have you may have to go back to the days when you were single and cared about how you look, when you were trying to get laid or meet someone. You are not an insurance sales guy so no need to come dressed in a suit and tie. For the guys, a nice collared shirt, nice jeans and a nice pair of designer shoes will do. Don’t forget a fresh haircut, shower and shave your private parts. Ladies, this is your opportunity to bring out you inner sexy. The ladies are the centre of attention, so you want to dress the part. Sexy lingerie, club dresses, costumes, whatever you please, as long as you make sure it compliments your body very well.

Lifestyle events are fun, and everyone is usually very respectful. The level of respect and fun you find at swingers parties, you will be hard to find the same at your regular vanilla bar. That is because most lifestyle couples and singles know and follow these unspoken rules, which leads to a good time for all.

Video Of What Happens On A Swingers Vacation

What really happens when a group of swinger couples go on vacation? Let’s first explain that a regular all inclusive resort is not where swingers go to do swinger things when they travel. There are few resorts that host swingers groups, where couples and singles that attend can feel free to do whatever they want, from getting naked to having sex on the beach in public. This video tells the story of what actually happens on a Swingers Vacation.

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5 Most Over-Used Swingers Party Themes

In addition to having sex, another thing swingers like to do way more than the average person is “dress up.” In the swinging community, costume parties are not just reserved for Halloween. If you visit any local swingers club at any random time of the year, chances are, you will find the audience there participating in some kind of a theme.

Due to the frequency of these theme parties, it seems that many swingers party promoters are running out of ideas and some themes seems to get replayed over and over again. Maybe the hosts of these parties are getting lazy or maybe it’s because these ideas work better than the others. Whatever it is, we still see these themes as “overused”. Here is the list of the 10 most overused swingers party themes.

1. Naughty Schoolgirl

The teacher, schoolgirl fantasy remains one of the most popular fantasies amongst swingers and non-swingers, and it is as sexy today as it was ten years ago. However, this does not mean every other weekend at the club has to be “Naughty Schoolgirls Night.” The ladies look superhot in their little schoolgirl mini-skirts, but we would love it even more if we were given a chance to miss it.

2. Playboy Bunny

Hue Hefner sure did a great job of making the playboy bunny the global symbol of sexy. Eight out of every ten female has fantasised about being a playmate, and the local swingers club has wasted no time in milking that fantasy for everything it’s worth. The ladies will never so no to getting to live out their fantasy of being a playmate, and the local swingers club do a good job of making sure they get plenty of opportunities to do so.

3. Masquerade

There is something really sexy about being incognito, and that’s what masquerade parties are all about. If you Google “swingers parties” in addition to the very graphic orgy images, the second most famous result under Google images would be people in masks. Personally, I am not a big fan of the masquerade parties. Wearing a mask all night is very uncomfortable and I also much prefer to see the full facial features of the people I may or may not want to hookup with.

4. Pimps and Ho’s

If there are any of the themes on this list that I could do without not seeing again for the rest of my life, it is this one. Overused, cliché’, unsexy are the only words I have to describe the “Pimps and Hoes” theme night.

5. Lingerie

Lingerie is not as bad as the others. Unlike most of the theme nights on this list, there are several twists you can add to lingerie theme parties to keep them interesting. Still, it makes this list because it is definitely among the most frequently used.

Swingers like to dress up and party. We appreciate the theme nights and what they represent. The freedom of self-expression found in dressing in costumes is what lifestyle couples live for. Still, we would prefer things be kept a little more interesting with a little bit more creativity placed in putting together the themed parties.


10 Rules All Newbies Must Follow At An Orgy Party

It is usually very easy to pick out the newbies when you go to any orgy room or orgy party. It does not matter how much you think you are ready for it, no one can really be prepared for the first sight of naked bodies everywhere having sex. It’s easy to get overwhelmed or carried away if it’s your first time attending an orgy. However, there are some rules and guidelines that everyone, including newbies, must follow when at an orgy party.

1. Don’t act brand new

Even if you are new to the sex party set up, don’t let everyone else know. Just play it cool. You’ve all seen an orgy porn scene. Now, it’s just 3D. Act like you have been there before. Things will go a lot smoother.

2. Get in where you fit in

Don’t be shy. Looking around is OK. If you catch someone staring back at you with a smile, that is usually a clue to go say hello. Use your charm, be graceful and get into the action. Truthfully, you won’t need much. People are there for sex. So get to sexing.

3. Don’t get attached

Orgies are all about the animalistic urge to have sex. Nothing more. If you start out with one person and they wants to move on, let them. This isn’t the place for feelings. It’s a sex buffet; so feel free to sample the rest of the dishes… as long as they want, you to.

4. Don’t Be Surprised

Orgy parties normally get very freaky. There are many different people with different sexual interest and preferences, so don’t actor looked surprised if you see people doing freaky things that you are not used to. Feel free to watch and enjoy if you are fascinated by what’s happening, but you are not there to judge so if you do not like something, simply move on.

5. Don’t push it

You can only go as far as your partner(s) wants to go. Don’t try to force your own sexual agenda on someone else. If they’re for it then fine. If not, then be respectful and understanding about it. Forcing anyone or anything will have you thrown out and never invited back to another party.

6. No pass interference. 

Don’t disrupt any of the sex going on. Remember, you want to be a cog in the sex machine. You don’t want to be a monkey wrench. Don’t get in the way of the other participants. Everybody’s trying to get down, so don’t interfere with them, just join them.

7. Bring A Partner

If you are not a couple, then find a partner to bring along with you. Preferably a partner of the opposite sex if it’s a heterosexual orgy. Looking like a lonely shark or a timid lonely mouse is never an attractive thing at a sex party. It’s way easier to get into the action when you have a partner, and it’s way more attractive.

8. Know the party rules

Each orgy party may have their own set of rules. Make sure you know the parameters of the scene. You’d hate to be the only guy there unprepared. Remember, you don’t want to look like the clueless newbie. So, make sure you know what’s going to happen once you get there.

9. No cameras

Unless they say you can bring one, leave it at home. You’ll just have to use your descriptive skills to illustrate what happened to all of your less fortunate and horny friends. Grab your Thesaurus.

10. Have fun. 

Sex is supposed to be enjoyable. Sex with a bunch of people should be even more enjoyable; if you’re into that sort of thing. So have some fun. Be open-minded and experiment a little. No one is there to judge so feel free to push your sexual boundaries.


5 Foods You Should Not Serve At A Swingers Party

The swinging lifestyle community is all about social gatherings. From private house parties to hotel take-over or a simple meet-n-greet at a local pub. Food is usually a central part of any social event. Not only is food a good icebreaker, but also for those who show up early, it’s always nice to have something to nibble on while you wait for the party to get started. However, some foods should not be allowed at some types of parties. Swingers’ get-togethers are all about sexiness, and as much as some foods serve as an aphrodisiac, there are others that can have an extreme opposite effect.

Here are five foods you should never serve at your swinger’s party.

1. Garlic Anything

We all love garlic and the way it makes our food delicious and flavorful. But let’s face it, bad breath has no place at a party where the main goal is to get laid, and bad breath typically comes along with anything that has garlic. As much as it may seem like a great appetiser, if it has garlic, save it for another occasion.

2. Spicy Foods

Raise your hand if you would like to be the recipient of some “HOT” oral play after the person you are with just finished eating a few Jalapeno Poppers! Nobody? That’s what I thought. We want the party to be spicy, but not that kinda spicy.

3. Deep Fried Foods

When the goal is to get laid, we are also trying not to get fat at the same time because that could be a little counter-productive. Greasy, messy, foods are just not sexy and have no place at a swinger’s party.

4. Beans

Yup, anything with beans, NOT a good idea…. As you know, beans beans are good for the heart, the more you eat, the more you…… You finish the rest. It doesn’t rhyme with sexy either. Enough said. Leave the beans off the menu.

5. Fish

There’s something fishy about this party. I’m leaving. If it looks like fish, and smells like fish, scratch it off the guest list.

The truth is, for most people, when they show up to a swingers’ party, they are not expecting a buffet. Keep it light. Cheese and crackers, berries, and other simple snacks will do just fine.