Top 10 Places To Meet Other Swinger Couples

Once you have determined that you would like to expand the sexual boundaries of your relationship, and give the swinging lifestyle a try, the next question you now need to be answered is, “where do I find other swingers?” This may seem hard because it isn’t really the thing they run TV commercials for and swinger couples also don’t come with a particular label. You cannot go around asking random strangers if they are swingers, so how exactly do you find other swinger couples? Here are 10 places you can look.

1. Swinger Dating Sites

Yes, these do exist. Just like they have sites for singles matchmaking, the same exist for swingers as well. It’s worth becoming a member on one of these sites, as you are sure to find a lot of swingers, even in your local area on some of these sites. There are some reputable swingers dating sites around. If you are in the USA, you want to checkout sites like Kasidie, SLS and Lifestyle Lounge. is a great website for Black and Interracial couples dating in the US. If you are in Canada, you may find a lot of local swingers on sites like and Café Desire, and if you are in Europe, SDC is very popular among swinger couples in Europe.

2. Swingers Clubs

You can find one ore more swingers clubs in almost every major city in North America. These clubs operate similarly to your regular downtown night club, except for the fact that, there are adjoining rooms for couples to have sex during, or after the party, and all the people that are at these clubs are most likely swingers or curious about swinging. I am sure by just simply searching Google for a swingers club in a city near you; you will definitely find a few. You can also ask any local couple you meet on any swinger-dating site you join about swingers clubs in the area.

3. Clothing Optional Resorts

In addition to having sex a lot of sex, there is also another thing swingers have in common. They like to be naked in public. So when swingers travel, they tend to frequent the resorts that are clothing optional so they can be naked on the beach. Resorts like Hedonism II in Negril Jamaica, and the Desire Resorts in Cancun Mexico, host many swinger groups annually, and you can almost be guaranteed to find swingers on vacation at these resorts and others like this, any time of the year you visit.

4. Swinger Cruises

Swinger cruises are not as prevalent and accessible as the resort option, but a few of them do exist. There is about 2 or 3 large swingers cruise ship take-over that happens each year, and these cruises have anywhere from 1000 to 2000 couples. If you like cruising and you are looking to meet and party with a lot of swingers, then this is a great option.

5. Social Media

There are way more swingers on Facebook than you know. Swingers have found a way to setup private anonymous Facebook profiles, and create secret communities where they can interact daily on social media with other swinger couples. Not just on Facebook, Twitter also has a lot of couples that have created Twitter accounts specifically for the purpose of sharing their fantasies and experiences in the lifestyle. Once you find your first swinger specific Facebook profile, then that opens up the door to the secret world of swingers on Facebook. If you are considering using Facebook, Twitter or any other social media site for the lifestyle purposes, make sure you fully understand the necessary security features needed if you do not wish to be found by those you do not want knowing about your participation in the swinging lifestyle.

6. Craigslist

Craigslist is the capital of casual hook-up for swingers. It is where swingers go to place an ad if they are feeling frisky on a Tuesday and want to do something with a couple or single later-on at a nearby hotel. If you search the personals section of Craigslist, you will be sure to find several ads for couples near you who are searching for a hook-up or an outing with other like-minded couples. You can either reply to one of those ads, if something intrigues you, or place your own.

7. Yahoo Groups

Not as popular now as it used to be before Facebook, but there are still quite a few swingers that have private groups on Yahoo Groups, mostly to arrange their private house or hotel parties. If you go to Yahoo groups and type the word “Swingers” in the search bar, you will find several groups that you can send a request to join. Acceptance of these groups, however, will be left solely to the discretion of the group moderator.

8. House Parties

Swingers love hosting house parties. However, house parties tend to be more exclusive and not as readily available as the above options. To know about house parties happening near you, you would most likely have to be personally invited. There are some who have more open parties in the summer, and those you can generally find on whatever swingers dating site you are a member of or places like craigslist or yahoo groups. Careful, though, house parties are a lot more intimate than the regular club parties, and may not be the best first option for a newbie if you are just looking to observe and go at your own pace.


Swingers go on to organize their monthly “Meet N Greets” and other private local events. A good place to look if you are searching for a more laidback type event where you can get to know some couples and learn more about the lifestyle.

10. Adult Classifieds

Whether is print or online media, there are still those who use adult classifieds to place ads looking for “Ron De Vu”. This is a very old school and pretty much outdated method of finding couples, but some people may use this if they do not know about the other above methods. If you online adult classified sites or the adult classifieds section of your local paper, you may be lucky enough to find an ad that involves a situation that intrigues you.

Rumour has it that if you are in the grocery store and someone has a pineapple in their shopping cart turned upside down, or if you see anyone with a black ring on the right-hand ring finger, then these things signify that they are swingers. I am not sure about any of those two things, but I can promise you will definitely find other swingers in the ten places listed above.

5 Reasons you Should Join a Swingers Website

With the internet on the cusp of most people’s fingertips, It has become much easier to meet and converse with people around the world. For those new to the swingers lifestyle, it can still seem like a world that you would never know or understand how to become a part of. Lucky for you there are communities and social networks online that will allow you to do just that. Swingers Sites have been around for a long time (decades now) and have evolved rapidly to demand and nuances in social features. Here are 5 reasons why Swingers sites are important places for you to start your journey into the swingers lifestyle.

1. Knowledge

The swingers lifestyle can be, for a new couple, anything from extra spice in the bedroom a few times a year, to a new environment that makes them feel like they belong. There is an established culture of the lifestyle filled with ground rules, play styles, and lingo. For you to get accustomed to it all, the best thing to do is to join a swingers site and read up on the basics of the environment. This is probably one of the most important things to do as a new swinger. When you enter into this world, you don’t want to do anything to offend others, and you also want to be sure you are protecting yourself and your partner. Also, the terms and lingo that swingers use could have you stumped in the midst of conversation. So take the time out and get yourself educated!

2. Comfort

When Newbies get involved with the lifestyle, it is usually very unfamiliar. It isn’t always easy to wrap your mind around how open and direct swingers can be about intimacy with their spouses, as well with other couples they play with. You’re going to need to get used to this. Joining a swingers site will help this in multiple ways. Swingers like to post pictures and videos of themselves showing off their erotic talents. They post blogs and talk about their intimate fantasies and fish for other couples that can help them fulfil those fantasies. They talk about their experiences and give good advice to those that ask. Most importantly they can be good role models for developing your stability in the lifestyle. There is no better way to take off those training wheels.

3. Hooking up

As the point above mentioned, you will meet people. You can’t swing without another couple, so you got to get out there and make friends. On swinger sites, of course, there are swingers from all walks of life, with an endless list of erotic play styles and fetishes. Create an account, check out profiles, and when you find someone you’re interested in, send them a friends request and an email. It’s important that you chat and get to know people. Comfort and chemistry can only be established by interaction!

4. Events/Vacations

When you are ready to start being physically in the swingers lifestyle, you have to go where swingers gather together. Swingers websites always keep you up to date on events that are running in your area. You can see guest lists so you know if there are couples/singles you’ll be interested in. Also most times you can get discounts to events from swinger websites.

5. Security

This is a topic that has become very controversial lately. By nature, swingers are very discreet. They want to keep their sexual preferences a secret for fear of judgement from friends, family and even professional peers. Swingers sites usually charge a fee to join, and one of the perks are special security on your content. Due to the over saturation of swingers sites out there today, many people have started to make secret accounts on public social networks like Facebook, Twitter, or posting ads on Craigslist in hopes to find others. This is not a good idea, folks. Facebook and Twitter keep a record of every post, picture, and video you have ever posted in the Library of Congress, no matter what your security preferences are. Also, Facebook and Twitter are open sources, so whatever you post (photos, videos) can be taken by someone else and used at their discretion. Not to mention that it is also illegal to post xxx content on Facebook. If someone flags you, you can be put in “FB Jail” which is a term used to having your account suspended or permanently banned. And as far as Craigslist is concerned. It’s easier to spend one day at a swingers club talking to real people all night then it is to spend weeks on craigslist trying to weed and seed out real people from pic collectors, and adbots. So as you can see, There is always a price to pay. The safest way to keep your content discreet online is to join a website dedicated to the swingers environment. They focus on keeping your content safe!


I hope this has helped you to understand the benefits of a swingers website. There has been a large growth in couples looking to share their erotic nature with others, and so swingers have been finding themselves with many more friends than ever!