One of the rules of swingers’ lifestyle is that couples should continuously discover what works for them in the best way. Getting intimate with other people can result in jealousy, inadequacy and other issues that have to be settled by the couple. Only those partners who have settled these problems and establish a strong open line of constant communication can really enjoy the swinging lifestyle.
Newbies generally start out with soft swapping. This is when partners swap with another couple for different forms of foreplay, but they don’t try anything beyond that. Even when a swinger couple decides to move forward and beyond the soft swap, it is usually done with another swinger couple or a woman and not very often with a single man. But, what is it about trying it with a single man that is making a lot of swinger couples so awkward?
There are several reasons why a single man might be left out in swinging relationships. One of the reasons is that swinger couples that like each other typically have a lot in common along with swinging lifestyle. Just as in many other parts of our life, it is always easier to create relationships with people that you have a lot in common with. Once you lay the foundation, it gets simpler to move on to intimate relationships. So, it is not so easy to build this kind of bond between a single man and a swinger couple. It might be so difficult because a male partner in the couple might view a single man as a rival and a woman might consider herself to be prey. Even though it is still possible to overcome such issues, it is still harder than developing a friendly start that two swinger couples often have.
Another problem is the possible risk to the relationship. When two couples engage in sexual activity, all partners realise what they are giving each other sexually. They share the same possibility of pleasant sexual experience and similar risk. But, a single man doesn’t really have anything to lose.
The situation might seem very dim for a single man, who has selected a swinger lifestyle for himself. But the good thing is that there is a solution. A single man will just have to put a lot more of himself into this lifestyle if he really wishes to have a successful swinger experience. Here are some recommendations for a single man in swinger lifestyle.
First, it is important to keep in mind that it is not only about sex and swinger couples are searching for friends who share their lifestyle; so a couple is unlikely to engage in intimate relationships with a person they don’t like. So, an attitude of a single man is vital here.
It is also important to demonstrate respect for the couple’s relationships, which will help a single man to develop the trust and may lead to further exciting encounters. So, it is possible to achieve fulfilling swinger lifestyle if you are a single male and there are many men around the globe who have been accepted into their swinger communities.